15 ANGER MANAGEMENT TIPS

Anger is a positive human emotion as long as we are in control of it just like all emotions a normal person usually has. But when that anger turns into a destructive nature tampering the life of both the person who is experiencing it and the others around him/her, then it’s an unhealthy, negative emotion.

Here are 15 tips to help you manage anger and the resulting aggression in a positive and healthy way:

1. Use your Thinking Brain first

Anger and the resulting aggression goes out of your hand only if you allow it to. Just take a moment to analyse the situation and the impact the aggressive behaviour could have both on you and those around. This involves using the Thinking part of the brain and once you lighten up that area of the brain, the problem will be half solved. The solution will follow.

2. Exercise whenever you can

You don’t need to go to the gymnasium to balance the stress in daily life or the hormones in your body. A simple brisk walk can do wonders to your mind and body.

3. Distract yourself and move to a comfortable space

Try distracting your thoughts by filling with positive images like those of nature, or listening to your favourite songs. Take a sip of water if possible and hold it in your mouth for a while. Then slowly enjoy the flow of the water down your throat. The stress will fly away. 
Washing your face with cold water and splashing it into your eyes will also give a similar vibe as if you are reborn again.

4. Remain calm and silent

If moving away from the situation is not at all possible, try remaining silent. Remember that ‘silence is the best response to a fool’. 
If you are at your workplace, give yourself some time and wait before doing anything related to your job as it may backfire with negative results if you do things when you are not at all ‘fine’.

5. Forgive yourself and others

Forgiveness is the best medicine to heal the wounds caused by others. By forgiving them, you are forgiving yourself and freeing up all the negative emotions that would have flooded your mind related to any unhappy incidents or painful relationships.

6. Relax yourself

Deep breathing exercises are life savers these days. Those who have done it, know it. You can also try repeating mind-relieving words or phrases to calm yourself down like “Relax”, “Take it easy” or “You will be fine”. Take a deep breath and stretch yourself to relax physically as well.

7.Write a journal

Pen down your feelings. Sometimes, the paper turns out to be a good companion capable of keeping your secrets be it pain or thoughts that others won’t understand. The pen will be the best weapon too. It is often said, ‘the pen is mightier than the sword’.

8. Laugh a little, at least

Find ways to laugh. Not at the person who made you angry though. Try cracking a joke if you think it will cool down the situation. 
Always try to keep a smile on your face. Enjoy the little things in life. Find happiness in the simplest and smallest of things.

9. Know empathy, learn empathy

Think from others perspectives and analyse the situation like a detached observer. This often helps a lot.

10. Redirect the anger energy

Do something productive to channelise and redirect the aggressive emotions away from you. It can be writing poetry, or trying out your hobbies.

11. Watch comedies

Smartphones can be a blessing in aggressive situations if you know how to use them. Keep some humorous videos or pictures in your phone and watch them when you are stressed out or angry. Laughter is the best medicine.

12. Know the triggers

Become self aware of the things and situations that can trigger anger in you. Once you know it, you can prevent the emotion from commencing or even advancing further.

13. Focus on solutions

In case of relationships, stop blaming each other and try to find out solutions to the problem irrespective of who started it. Convey how you feel to the other person without sounding accusatory.

14. Express when you are ‘you’

Once you are sure that the mindset for aggressive behaviour no longer exists, express your concerns and the solutions which you might have got by then, in a calm and peaceful manner. Don’t leave the incident unresolved as this can later fuel your future arguments.

15. Seek help when…..

Seek help when you are not able to control the aggression at all and it makes you do things that will cause you regret and hurt others. Express your feelings to someone you trust.

Wrap-up

Mastering your mind is the best way to master your life!